Playing a Wrong GAME OF LOVE
I had a very difficult 2 years long relationship. Because of hard depressions through these 2 years I’ve fainted many times, I’ve been hospitalized several times. My parents and friends have finally persuaded me to break up with my boyfriend and end that relationship. Almost a year has passed since we broke up but depression does not go away. I work as an accountant in a big corporation, love my job very much, and go out with friends but I feel nervous and depressed all the time. I had 10 meetings with a psychotherapist and got a recommendation to be as busy as I can and asked for additional work, signed up for a gym, but nothing helps. I am even more depressed now. I have no desire for anything in my life whatever I do.
What is wrong with me? Is there any way to help me? How can I get over this depression?
| Name | Age | Marital Status | From |
|---|---|---|---|
| Hannah | 29 years old | Single | USA |
Answer
Your situation is not hard to explain. In your case you simply play the game which is called love. As long as you play the game of love it’s hard for you to go through the game, hard to let go, hard to forget the situation and start a new relationship. Unfortunately, for you the game of love means fainting, hospitalisation, continuous state of a victim, depression and so on.
Suddenly once you broke up with your boyfriend – all this was immediately taken away from you and you lost the play of a game. You are a relationship addict to whom your boyfriend, as a drug dealer, supplied what you thought was necessary – your suffering, discomfort, self-pity, sadness, sorrow on which you lived all those 2 years.
Now nobody provides you with these emotions, you are psychologically and emotionally deprived of these relationships and experiences. Because of this, you suffer and therefore you are not interested in other men who behave well and do not make you faint.
The solution to your psychological challenge is to explain to yourself that the game had nothing to do about love. It was ONLY about addiction – emotional or adrenaline.
Once you understand that you are a neurotic who got used to such depressive experiences you will continue to look for men and the relationships that will cause fainting, hospitalisation and feeling of desperation. You are not creating a love story, you are creating an addiction story.
I personally believe that there is no difference between smoking, alcoholism, drug addiction and such relationships. As with quitting smoking, at some point you have to say to yourself that it is enough of such relationships. That you do not like and do not want such a relationship, but because you are an addict- you have a problem with it.
Once you understand and realize this, you will stop attracting people for such unhealthy relationships and soon will find a good man with whom you will be happy. Follow this technique. It will be much easier and faster for you to return to a normal life.
I’ll repeat – don’t play that game of love, it has nothing to do about love!